One of the best ways I have found to approach life

In the world we currently live in, there’s probably an endless supply of things that can stress us out and cause us to question the path we are on.

I’ve been there. I’ve had moments when I thought that I was in the wrong place and needed to move on to a different career, job, or organization. I think we all get to this point at different stages of life.

I have found for me, these moments are usually happening to me because I feel like I don’t have control. You probably feel this way too when you are losing or have lost control.

I haven’t met anyone who enjoys living without control. After all, in my opinion, it is a basic human need along with safety and life purpose. So when control is removed, it can feel like you’ve been punched in the gut. You lose the wind in your sails and aren’t sure where to turn.

One of the ways that I remind myself every day in my morning routine that I have control, is to think about choice. I have chosen to wake up at the time I did, make my coffee/tea and then sit and read and write. I have control over that.

I have the ability to decide how I am going to respond to the world around me. Different circumstance and situations will happen that I have very little control over, but I do have control over my reaction.

I’ve adopted a personal life philosophy from the Japanese culture called shoshin. Shoshin can be interpreted as “beginners mind”. When you dig deeper into the meaning, it is all about staying curious and approaching each situation as unique no matter how similar and familiar it may seem.

I have found that when I am able to do this well, it starts to create an anticipation for the future as opposed to a dread of what is to come. Approaching life with anticipation allows us to appreciate the nature of a moment in time. 

If you are reading this, then you just like me, can choose to live today with anticipation. To stay curious about what the day has in store for you. Do your best to avoid negative thinking around what hasn’t happened yet, or what you think should have happened.

Appreciate the day and the fact that you get to live another one. As my friend Nicholas Kemp wrote in his book Ikigai-kan: Feel a life worth living, ‘approach your day with arms wide open.’ Learn more about ikigai at Nick’s website:

You can learn more about shoshin and how to create more work:life harmony in my book Always Improving: Lessons from the samurai:

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 #ikigai #alwaysimproving #shoshin #ikigaikan #worklifeharmony

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